Almost everyone has things in their lives that weigh them down, prevent them from rising, loving themselves and life the way they were meant to be loved
Here are 17 things that may be stressing you out in life:
1 Your habitual way of thinking When you’re stuck in an endless cycle and you know you’re stuck, the first thing you should do is stop and examine your thought processes
You may not even know that you are able to observe your thoughts almost from a third-person perspective, but with practice you will
Understanding the way you think and why you think the way you do is the first step to changing your life
2 Your reality and outlook on life The way we think brings about the things we think about, what we believe and how we view the world and life itself
We have all learned different life lessons in different ways and created our own theories about why and how life works the way it does
4 Your past failures There was never a person who did not fail at something
You make mistakes, you fail, and I hope you learn something from those failures
Failures are hard, while lessons learned lift you up
But if you don’t let them go, they will forever weigh on your mind—a kind of self-inflicted torture that we happily indulge in at the same time
6 Those habits you hate but have a hard time breaking Many people have at least one habit that we don’t like but find it hard to break
If you want to lighten your burden and make changes in your life for the better, you will first and foremost have to give up these kinds of habits
7 Those habits you love but know aren’t doing you any good These are even harder to get rid of because they bring you joy
8 That job that makes you wish you never woke up I’m not sure if having a job like this is a necessary part of life – because maybe it is – but most of us find ourselves keeping a job like this sooner or later
Hopefully you’ll accept how much you hate it as soon as possible and give your warning before moving on to something that brings a smile to your face
9 All those people who bring negativity into your life Sometimes it seems like the world is out to get you and is doing its best to destroy you
The truth is, some people probably are, while most are simply spewing negativity because they feel like it
If you know that they are not adding to your life, but only taking away, then do yourself a favor and stop wearing them
Your unhealthy lifestyle If you have an unhealthy lifestyle and you know you have an unhealthy lifestyle, then why do you choose to continue living that way?
The need for constant movement, constant doing There are many ways to define life, but being constantly active and constantly filling your days with tasks is not one of them
Most things you hear, see and read get stored in your head – even if only for a short time
You are processing information that is essentially worthless – it takes time, energy and memory space
Believing that stress is a bad thing Stress is a kind of alarm system
I know this may sound impossible, but our brains are so incredibly powerful that just believing something is bad for us can actually make it bad for us
Use stress to your advantage and don’t let it weigh you down
You don’t have to impress anyone else
Whatever you don’t like about yourself, you can change – but that doesn’t mean you have to change it, or that you should want to change it
If you continue to work, your anger and emotions will weigh you down and slow you down
The term letting go helps you visualize how your actions, thoughts, and emotions can follow you around if you don’t let things go
Give up work
Leave the work at work, don’t take it home with you
The longer you cling to problems, questions, tasks, tensions, deadlines from work, the harder they become
Burnout is emotional, mental and physical exhaustion caused by excessive stress, and work can be a common cause
The work will not stop coming and takes as much time as you use it; you can control this by not taking work home with you
Many jobs are creative and involve working with people, these activities require energy, ideas and interaction with people to co-create solutions
Creative work is not a repetitive task that you can do mindlessly, the longer you work, the lower the quality of your creativity
Creativity requires bursts of energy, ideas, and trial and error
Sticking to a task is like picking up a small weight, it’s not tiring in the short term, the longer you hold it the harder it gets until the weight becomes unbearable
It’s a recipe for burnout, you stick with the work day after day and end up never being able to escape
Don’t let work follow you home, do something nice with your family, friends or your horse
Shutting down allows you to step away from work, which helps recharge and refresh you mentally, emotionally and physically
When you return to work, you can look at work from a different perspective and your brain has time to subconsciously think about your problems
I noticed that there was always more work and doing work often did not contribute much
Not only did this mean less work, allowing me to focus on more valuable work, but it gave other people the opportunity to learn new skills and contribute
Let go of the anger
Life regularly slaps us in the face, but don’t hold onto your anger, let it go and let it go
Anger bypasses thinking and moves to reaction; when you let anger control your actions, it can lead to something you later regret
Your angry reactions create anger in others, like
To prevent anger from building up, label the emotion, ask why someone would act this way, and see the situation from their point of view
Anger is a reaction, if you want to get out of the cycle you need to stop and not waste time and energy with anger because it is not productive
When dealing with an angry person or a bully, you can use this loss of control to your advantage, as described here Anger in others is an opportunity, not something to be feared
I have been in many situations where anger shifted the focus of conversations from solving the problem to arguing my point of view, and in the end we never got around to the problem and needed further meetings
The participants wasted no time in getting angry and completed the meeting as quickly and quietly as possible
The angry approach of the organizers reduced the effectiveness of the meeting and the people by withholding information and reducing participation
Let go of the past and the future
Spending time in the past or future is expensive for the present
People’s negative comments or actions can be picked up and carried around with us, and like other things we pick up, they weigh on us and affect our future actions
And the first monk without hesitation crosses that stream, picks up a beautiful girl and carries her over and puts her down
Do you know that it is against our beliefs and our faith to come in contact and touch a person of the opposite sex?’ The first one says, ‘I put it back there, but you carried it all the way here
The story shows that it is easy to pick up events, opinions, work, anger, emotions and carry them with you and influence your future actions
We should learn from our mistakes and plan for the future, but it is important to focus on what is in front of us, listen to what is being said and fully engage in what we are doing
“I’ve been through some terrible things in my life, some of them actually happened “
The past is gone and cannot be changed, learn from it and move on
The future is not here yet, plan and focus on the now until it arrives
Don’t let the words and actions of others defeat you, leave the problems to them
Leave work behind after hours, spend time on rewarding activities such as family, friends, hobbies and entertainment