Almost everyone has things in their life that weigh them down, that prevent them from rising, loving themselves and life the way they should be loved
Here are 17 things that may be the most burdensome things in life:
1 Your habitual way of thinking When you’re stuck in a never-ending cycle, and you know you’re stuck, the first things you need to stop and examine are your thought processes
You may not even know you can watch your thoughts from a third-person perspective, but with practice, you will
Understanding how you think and why you think the way you do is the first step to changing your life
2 Your reality and your perspective on life The way we think informs about what we think, what we believe, and how we view the world and life itself
We have all learned different life lessons in different ways and created our own theories about why and how life works the way it does
4 Your past failures There has never been a person who has not failed in something
You make mistakes, you fail, and hopefully you learn from those failures
Failures are difficult while lessons learned will lift you up
But if you don’t let them go then they will remain trapped in your thoughts – the kind of self-torture that we can at the same time enjoy indulging in
6 Those habits you hate, but have a hard time getting rid of Most people have at least one habit that we don’t like, but it’s hard to break
If you want to reduce your burden and make changes in your life for the better, you need to stop these types of habits first and foremost
7 Those habits you love, but know aren’t doing you any good These are harder to break as they bring you joy
8 That job that makes you wish you never got up I’m not sure that having such a job is a necessary part of life – because it might be – but most of us find ourselves holding such a job sooner or later
Hopefully, you accept how quickly you hate it and give your notice before moving on to something that brings a smile to your face
9 All those people who bring negativity into your life Sometimes it seems like the world is out to get you, doing everything it can to bring you down
The truth is that some people might, while many just put out nothing because they feel like it
If you know that they do not add to your life, but only take away from it, do yourself a favor and stop carrying them
The way you live is not right If you are living in a wrong way and you know that you are living in a wrong way, then why do you choose to live like that?
The need to be always moving, always doing There are many ways to describe life, but always working and always filling your days with activities is not one of them
Most of what you hear, see, and learn is stored in your head—if only for a short time
You are processing information that is worthless – it takes time, energy and memory space
Believing that stress is bad Stress is like an alarm system
I know this may sound impossible, but our mind is so powerful that just believing something is bad for us can make it bad for us
Use stress to your advantage and stop letting it overwhelm you
You don’t need to convince anyone else
Whatever it is that you don’t like about yourself, you can change – but that doesn’t mean you have to change it or want to change it
If you keep picking up work, anger and emotions will overwhelm and slow you down
The word letting go helps you imagine how your actions, thoughts and feelings can follow you if you don’t let things go
Stop work
Leave your work at work, don’t bring it home with you
The more you hold on to problems, questions, tasks, pressures, deadlines, the harder they become
Burnout is emotional, mental and physical exhaustion caused by excessive stress, work can be a common cause
Work won’t stop coming and takes as much time as you give, you can manage this by not bringing work home with you
Many jobs are creative and involve working with people, these jobs require energy, ideas and connecting with people to build solutions together
Creative work is not a repetitive task that you can do mindlessly, the longer you work the lower the quality of your creativity
Creativity requires bursts of energy, ideas and trial and error
Sticking to a job is like picking up a small weight, it doesn’t get tiring in the short term but the more you stick to it the harder it gets, until the weight becomes unbearable
This is a recipe for burnout, you are stuck at work, day after day and eventually you will never be able to escape
Don’t let work follow you home, do something fun with family, friends or a hobby
Switching off allows you to step back from work, helping you to refresh and rejuvenate mentally, emotionally and physically
When you return to work you can look at work from a different perspective and your mind has time to think about your problems
What I noticed was that there was always a lot of work to be done and often doing the work didn’t help much
This not only meant less work, which allowed me to focus on more valuable work but also gave other people the opportunity to learn new skills and contribute
Let go of anger
We are hit in the face by life often but we don’t hold onto the anger, we let it fall
Anger overrides thinking and reacts, when you allow anger to control your actions it can lead to doing something you later regret
Angry responses from you, cause anger in others, like
To stop growing angry, write down the feeling, ask why the person would act like that and see the situation from their point of view
Anger is a reaction, to get out of the cycle you need to stop and not waste your time and energy being angry because you are not being productive
When dealing with an angry or abusive person, you can use this loss of control to your advantage as discussed here Anger in others is an opportunity not something to fear
I’ve been in many situations where anger in conversations has shifted the focus from solving the problem to arguing their point, in the end we didn’t get to the point and need more meetings
The attendees wasted no time in getting angry and ended the meeting as quickly and calmly as possible
Angry facilitators reduce the effectiveness of the meeting and hold information and reduce collaboration
Break away from the past and the future
Spending in the past or future comes at a present cost
We can take negative comments or actions from people and carry them with us and like other things we take for granted, they weigh us down and influence future actions
And the first monk, without delay, crosses that river, picks up the beautiful girl and brings her across and puts her down
Do you know that it is against our beliefs and our religion to meet and touch someone of the opposite sex? ‘
The story shows how easy it is to pick up events, ideas, work, anger, emotions and carry them with you and influence your future actions
We should learn from our mistakes and plan for the future but most importantly focus on what is in front of us, listen to what is being said and be fully involved in what we are doing
“I’ve lived through bad things in my life, some of them really happened “
The past is gone and cannot be changed, learn from it and move on
The future isn’t here yet, plan and focus on the present until it arrives
Don’t let the words and actions of others get you down, leave the problems to them
Quit work after hours, spend time on rewarding things like family, friends, hobbies and pastimes